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He Lies, Cheats and Disrespects Me but I Still Love Him...Why?

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Posted by Anonymous on May 20, 2010 at 5:27 PM

At some point when we are getting older; we dream about our future, some of us dream about being doctors, lawyers, singers but some of us dream about love. Love to me is to give everything you have to someone, to be kind, to be respectful, to be loyal, a friend, a lover, to be honest, to be intelligent, and to be able to trust them with your eyes closed and your heart open. We all have those friends that have shared a story of their ungrateful husband and/or boyfriend and we all can admit that we say to ourselves I will NEVER tolerate that from anyone. We say to our loved one and ask, ”why are you doing that to yourself ", but I can tell you this don't ever say never. You don't ever know until it happens to you.   When I found out my boyfriend was being unfaithful; I felt this pain in my stomach. I felt shaky and I had a million thoughts coming thru my head all at once. The first thing I did was call him and yell from the top of my lungs WHYYYYY???? Of course, automatically you say it's over don't call me, don't talk to me, don't touch me, I don't want to see you and you wish him the very worst in his life. Then it gets tricky all that anger goes away after you have called every single best friend you have, once you vent and sit down and talk to your own thoughts it crosses your mind, should I give him a chance? He sounds like he is deeply sorry for what he has done, he sends flowers, calls non stop, cries, begs, apologizes and you say to yourself I really love this man, everyone makes mistakes, he really, really is trying, if he didn't want to be with me he would be with that other girl instead of fighting for me. RIGHT???   So, do you call the other girl and start problems with her??? Reality is it's not her fault. We all have choices, he had a choice to be faithful or not and he chose not to. So do I still call her?? Of course we call, because we feel we need some type of closure and see what the hell was this all about and very rarely you find a woman that had an idea about you, but then you come across those women that really don't care, they have probably been searching their whole life to be with someone and will take whatever MAN comes their way. In my case , the woman knew about me and actually thought to herself that she had a relationship with him and it's like how do you have a "relationship" with someone that you don't know where he spends all his days and nights. Well he is a good liar to me and he was a good liar to her too, so after you have spoken to the girl, you find yourself thinking so when he said this, he was really doing this. And YOU have a choice, to walk away and start fresh or stay and fight for something that you have put so much time, effort and LOVE into and that’s when you make the decision and you decide to stay.... Can you honestly think that you can be that exception, that the man you are with will do a 360 and become the man you deserve??? Or is he the DOG he showed you he really is?? We all want to be that story that once he knew he was about to lose you, he is just going to hold on tight and never let you go.

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  • Posted by Anonymous on January 23, 2014 at 7:31 AM
i kind of am in the same situation as you were right now. My boyfriend cheated on me after almost two years.. it was hard, i was so angry, i still am actually. I cried every day and night for 2 weeks, i lost like 5 kilo's because i couldn't eat. He always told me he was so scared that i would cheat on him and if i would do that i would hurt him so much. I still have these conversations on my phone and it makes me cry every single time. After a lot of talking to my friends i wanted to leave him. But i could't do it. I couldn't just leave him, i spent so much time, effort and love into him, was it all for nothing? So i decided to stay and give him one last chance, so he can prove himself to me. I still wonder if i made the right choice, i don't think he will be my future husband anymore, but i do think it's worth a try.. it will cost a lot of time, but maybe it'll work out, right?
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  • Posted by Henry Nancy on December 8, 2013 at 12:48 AM
Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony.My husband breakup with me 2 months ago after (8) years of marriage just because he met another woman in his working place and he left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web for help, i saw a post on how this spell caster Dr Kasee on this email onimalovespell@gmail.com,on how he have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply and explain my problems to him to his email and he cast a love spell for me which i use to get my husband back from the wicked woman who took him away from me and after 3 days my husband come back to me.I believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my husband. Thanks for Dr. Kasee. His email: onimalovespell@gmail.com
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My whole life i ve never had a stable relationship all men come get want they and go.As a matter of fact i saw myself as tool for all men.I don’t no its like i was just not loveable no matter how i give my all to them they end up living me with nothing but a broken heart.All these bad relationship i had experienced led to a psychological breake down thank my star that i got through that.Finding a man was never hard for me they just all wanted sex with me and once they get it, they all live but for the first time i found one that was willing to stay.I had never felt whole in my entire life but with him i kept floating in the sky.Yes he was married and unhappy he only married his wife cos they had a child together.One thing was for sure, as he made me whole i also did to him.We where in love as much as i cud tell he was willing to divorce his wife to be with me but she wudn’t let go like she owned his life and wanted him to me miserable 4 life.I don’t no but something made her too dangerous for him to get out of the marriage.For the first time in my life i found a man that was not willing to go anyway he was willing to fight for our love ven if it kills him.2 year passed and she wouldn’t let go so i just felt i should do something about it.I seeked advice and help if they could i even checked the internet for solution which ended up being a waste of time.However, i saw articles or rather comments of a lot of persons who used spell casting to fix their relationship and some it get those who they loved to see how much they loved them.And they all kept referring to a particular spell caster mutton osun.At first i just ignored it but my lover came across those article also.After we talked about it we desided to contact him and asked if he cud in any way help us.He just and only asked us to provide some really weird materials that just thinking if it made me scared not like they were harmful its just that i was not used to this things.We ie me and my lover desided that we sould asked him to get them with what we sent to him ie, money.We asked him to cast a spell to make ,y lover wife set him free and he did as we asked and it walked i know cos 12 hours before he said he has completed the spell, she was still very much not going to sign any divorce paper but after the spell was completed all we did was give her the paper and without a fight he signed it.I know its hard to belief only the people close to us know how true this is.lets just say you want to contact use this email address godsofosunx@rockemail.com
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  • Posted by Anonymous on May 21, 2010 at 3:42 PM
Thank you very much for all your responses. I know in my heart that this is not my future with this man. I also know that our lives will never be as perfect as it can be, his lies and deceit have affected everything in our lives, our families don't speak to each other, which I understand my family and friends because who wants that kind of person with their sister, daughter, mother..and you know I find it really funny how his family has never spoken to me or ever got to know me, because I was protrayed as the other woman when I was completely oblivous to what was going on, I fight every day to make a point that our lives shouldn't be like this when special occasion come by we have to be apart and a normal realtionship shouldn't be that way. I was also tired of defending myself and telling them that I was an innocent by stander and had no clue. It is not my character to do such a thing, this woman was not in his life and decided to come in when we were together for almost a year. but thats besides the point because do I really want to be part of a family that let's their son do this to people and I don't just blame him I blame his mother, sister, family because they all knew me and her and allowed to happen, even though he is with now it will never be how it should've been. I am just trying to get the courage and strength to finally make a decision and either move forward or FINALLY let it be over and done. I truly appreciate all your responses here and on facebook, it has really got me thinking.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on May 21, 2010 at 11:09 AM
I left my husband over this, I had 3 kids, my youngest was 7 months old (very young family) It was crazy hard, I loved him for so long and was so in love with him. The girl thought we were in the process of divorcing, and overheard him talking to me on the phone, and was so upset she called me. She wanted him for herself, so just because they wronged me I wanted to fight for him, and not let her have him, but I didn't. I actually filed for harassment charges against her because she kept calling wanting updates on how 'we' were doing, GAH! Anyway, some women stay because they do have children and they have put years into the marriage, I put year into bettering him when I should have put that energy into him. So do you fight for your relationship or let a 'mistake' destroy everything you built together? Trust is gone, you will never be able to get past that EVER. I had tried. I think the women who stay with their men still dont trust him no matter what they say or how they act, it's always in your head. It's no mistake, and only cheaters would say/believe that. I left, why would I stay? Let my boy's see me like that again? seriously? no, that's not the message I wanted to send to them. I also wanted to be happy, I didn't want to spend anymore time with someone who could betray me. I eventually became very happy, determined not to waste any more tears, or time thinking about him/it/her/them.... I just forced myself to start thinking about other things, like what I wanted to do, now 'what am I gonna do now...' woe is me. I forced myself to date (scary after being with someone since you were a teenager) and I found myself in love, I have a very happy ending (so far) but I keep in mind that people change, who we are today wont be who we are in 5,10,15 years. But life must go on, it will get better, time heals EVERYTHING! My advise to my girls (one who just left her man Saturday, but shoulda been years ago) If you waste your time hoping he will change, you're not falling in love, Mr Right has come and gone, and will come again but you have to let go to move forward, and ONLY you can do that and you will do that eventually. But DONT waste time, time is all we've got! life is short, so be happy. "Change is not a destination, just as hope is not a strategy."
Rudy Giuliani
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  • Posted by Anonymous on May 21, 2010 at 1:10 AM
firstly think about how happy he made you when you were together, does it make you happy?
And if you love him then it's not for me to decide.
After all he's only human and mistakes are made, forgive and forget, everyone deserves a second chance. ;)
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  • Posted by Anonymous on May 20, 2010 at 8:07 PM
Leave. Leave him, i tried to stay and work it out for two years and instead of things getting better it got much worse, because his guilt and conscience for what he did to me made him go nuts. He started thinking that I was going to do something too. to get back at him, revenge. He got so consumed with this that it made life unbearable. it was nothing like before, it now was always, where were you? how come it took that long? who are you talking to? he didn't want me to leave his sight, he became angry with me. I eventually stopped doing anything at all. and felt in a hopeless state. It was the hardest thing for me to leave, i was with him for 15 years. and thats not even the hard part leaving was easy it was staying gone that has been hard. but now that i did, I would not ever go back, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted. He wronged you, don't settle for less in life. It's too short, don't waste any more of it on someone who is willing to put you through the pain and hurt caused by cheating. Cause if they are willing to do that, then they are not worthy of you.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on May 20, 2010 at 5:46 PM
my ex cheated on me, and of course i went back to him. now i look back at it, and i would never go back with someone who cheated on me. yes, its hard at first, you love them alot, but you should never be with someone who would do that too you. theres many fish in the sea, youll end up moving on and then finding someone else soo much better.
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Well, fist of all, that situation really sucks and I'm really sorry that you're one of those girls that had to go through it. I'm not too sure what it is exactly that you're asking for in this whole thing, but in my opinion, you have to be strong enough to not take him back. For me, if a man cheats once and you let him back in, he's more likely to do it again. Now, I'm just generalizing that. I know that not all men who cheat once do it again, but usually the case is that they do. So if you don't want to be hurt again and if you don't feel that this kind of treatment is what you deserve, then get rid of him. If my boyfriend had ever cheated on me, I know for a fact that I would never be with him again, but I also know that after a time I would get over it and I would forgive him, but I would also be smart enough not to repeat the past and if I were to have any relationship after that, I would choose to simply be his friend, no matter how hard that may seem in the beginning. But that's why if you choose to do all of that, then you really do need to be strong enough to not give in to his calls or any gifts he tries to offer. You need to decide what it is that you want and you need to fight to keep that and you need to stay strong in your actions in order to attain what you want.

Good luck with everything.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on May 20, 2010 at 5:38 PM
ok to be honest ive had almost been throug the same thinggggg...
the other girl "or should say woman""" she was way older than both of us knew about me,married and alllllll she even had kids..u can ask me what the hell did she want form us but it wasnt her own fault they were both into this...
ive been through al thos feelings.but i never asked her not that i didnt think of it but i just couldnt put myself into this...
i dont know shoudl i be proud of that but i forgave him and i do belive in hom becaus ei can see that he has changed a lottttttttttttt and its way obviuos..but its jsut that feeeling that i dont think iw ill ever get over "WAHT IF IT HAPPENED AGAIN""
but im in love
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